Rainbow Parties

The recent publication of a novel for teenagers titled RAINBOW PARTY has revived debate about whether or not such 'rainbow parties' are real. As a recent NY Times article explained, "rainbow parties are group oral sex parties in which each girl wears a different shade of lipstick, and each guy tries to emerge sporting every one of the various colors." Such parties are supposedly all the rage with teenagers (kids these days!... what will they think of next?). In the book, a teenage girl has to decide whether or not to go to such a party, but the party ends up never taking place.

The concept of rainbow parties first gained widespread attention back in 2003 when a guest on the Oprah show claimed that all kinds of teenagers were going to these things. But the thing is, tales about rainbow parties always seem to be third-hand: coming from adults who are trying to raise alarms about teenage sexuality. The same NY Times article notes that "Many say rainbow parties are just a new urban legend -- suburban, actually -- not much more trustworthy than the old stories about alligators in the sewer."

I'd have to agree that the rainbow party concept is probably more urban legend than reality. It reminds me of the Jelly Bracelet tale (that teenagers supposedly wear color-coded jelly bracelets to indicate to other kids what kind of sexual acts they're willing to perform). But as always with such things, it may have started out fake, but give it enough time and someone, somewhere, is probably going to be inspired to make it real.

Sex/Romance Urban Legends

Posted on Thu Aug 11, 2005


my girlfriends mom NEVER wants her to go to parties with me because my friend nates mom told her mom that teenagers would have group oral sex at parties
Posted by RAMONESxMANIA  on  Thu Aug 11, 2005  at  04:05 PM
I was born 20 years to early.
Posted by bruce  on  Thu Aug 11, 2005  at  04:28 PM
Forget the book and the debate, just tell me where I can find one of these parties...
Posted by Big Gary C in Dallas  on  Thu Aug 11, 2005  at  04:39 PM
sweet im 15 ill tell you all if its true....

and i will get all the colors.
Posted by Nightmare  on  Thu Aug 11, 2005  at  06:34 PM
My vote is myth.

Unless it's an all-boy party, I cannot believe in teenage group orgies simply because of the differing sex drive between females and males.

Namely males have one, females don't.
Posted by DFStuckey  on  Fri Aug 12, 2005  at  03:54 AM
Strange, it was the other way round, in my teenage relationships.
Posted by Boo  on  Fri Aug 12, 2005  at  04:35 AM
Funnily enough the episode of Oprah (or DR Phil)which discusses this was on in Australia yesterday. It sounds like the typical fear mongering-harbinger-of-doom type ratings winning formula Oprah would use to raise the awareness of this important teenagers-in-crisis issue that is so prevelent in the world today. Whether or not they actually occur doesn't seem to matter, it could and since a book has been written about it it makes it more likely and thats enough proof for some people in the media.
I wonder if the book is on her top ten?
Posted by timichu  on  Fri Aug 12, 2005  at  04:37 AM
Totally a myth. That's not to say that something like it hasn't happened at some point, somewhere. But to say it's a trend, or that it's happening all the time, is completely false in my opinion.

I remember back when I was in junior high. F**k tabs were the big thing. You'd take the tab off a pop can, and how it broke would determinge what sexual favour you'd get from a girl for it.
Of course, the one thing we all knew was that no matter how many tabs you gave a girl, you'd never get anything in return.
If something was going to happen, it had nothing to do with the tabs.
Posted by AqueousBoy  on  Fri Aug 12, 2005  at  07:24 AM
hey, if these parties are really going down, then it sucks that we all can't be there...what a country
Posted by Hairy Houdini  on  Fri Aug 12, 2005  at  10:29 AM
These parties are very real - at least the seem so. They've been taking place in my dreams since I was 13!!!!! I also have a cousin who sees all kinds of pretty rainbows all the time. But I think that has more to do with his choice of recreational substances.
Posted by Dreamer  on  Fri Aug 12, 2005  at  10:38 AM
Myth, same category as the girls with coke-bottles stuck vacuum down there. Just male hormones and wishful thinking
Posted by jerry s  on  Fri Aug 12, 2005  at  10:46 AM
Sorry to tell you all , but this actually does happen. When I was 17 I participated in a few (well 2 to be exact) And it doesn't happen the way they are saying it does. It's more disclosed than that. None of us got BJ's in front of everyone it was always in a bathroom, closet or other non-public place. The first party I went to, I only got one shade, but the second one, I got 3 colors.
Posted by Anonymous  on  Fri Aug 12, 2005  at  12:45 PM
I read an article in a teen magizine about these parties.
Posted by Dany  on  Fri Aug 12, 2005  at  03:57 PM
Yes Virginia, it actually does happen. When I was a junior in high school I was in with the in group and we had these parties once or twice a month.
Posted by partyboy  on  Fri Aug 12, 2005  at  06:28 PM
Ah, here come the netsibishionists . . .

You three above say you have been to such events. I could crap on a cracker and say it was peanut butter, but I think most people would realise it was not after at least two bites.

Let's be realistic; Consensual sex among men and women of any age group is becoming rarer. Look at the birth rates in most countries, the increasing number of singles and same sex relationships.
Posted by DFStuckey  on  Fri Aug 12, 2005  at  09:40 PM
Wow, this sounds like a good idea! I would love to have one of these parties!
Posted by Michael Jackson  on  Sat Aug 13, 2005  at  05:26 AM
It's funny how folks who aren't getting any action don't want to believe that other people get it regularly.
Posted by partyboy  on  Sat Aug 13, 2005  at  07:56 AM
it's funny how people who get it regularly like to believe that other people don't...I'm Bad...you know it
Posted by Hairy Houdini  on  Sat Aug 13, 2005  at  08:10 AM
Wow! Partyboy is my new hero. He ain't lyin', nd I ain't frontin'. The guy I'm worried about is the fruity virgin who wants to take a dump on a cracker and make a peanut butter sandwich. You ought to write a story about him. Wash your hands after you meet with him, though (hepatitis).
Posted by booch  on  Sat Aug 13, 2005  at  04:01 PM
Party boy, the old saying is quite true.

The ones who brag the most get the least.

Unless you can provide proof I suggest you don't make any further comments.

And that goes for the rest of you.
Posted by DFStuckey  on  Sat Aug 13, 2005  at  06:48 PM
I think this just might be a spin-off of the new Oral Sex trend, that teens have admitted that oral sex is the new cool "non-sex". (Even though, I doubt even the claims of how prevelant this is, is suspect.) And maybe one kid was bragging that he had multiple shades of lipstick you-know-where, and then turned that brag into a party. (And essentially the 'original' incident never even took place.) Sorry, even the slutty girls that I knew when I was a teenager wouldn't give it to multiple guys at a party...and the slutty teen girls I know now wouldn't give it to multiple guys at a party.
Posted by Maegan  on  Sun Aug 14, 2005  at  07:11 AM
You keep such "nice" company there Maegan!



*I thought you were a nice Christian girl?*
Posted by Mark-N-Isa  on  Sun Aug 14, 2005  at  10:51 PM
Let's see if I have this straight: Since we all know that rainbow parties don't happen, if someone claims to have been to a "rainbow party," that's evidence that they are lying. Thus there is no evidence for rainbow parties. Thus we know that they don't happen.

Posted by partyboy  on  Mon Aug 15, 2005  at  05:09 AM
Currently I'm in highschool, and I hang out with the goths and punks but not consider one. My friends and I are sexual active, all the girls including myself are bi-sexual, some are homosexual, most of the guys are bi, some of them as well are gay as well, but some are even straight but had bi experimental experiences.
Everywhere we go, we're either kissing each other, groping each other, or pulling each other's clothes off. In my freshman year, I had my first experience with girls during an orgy, 5 girls only because we kicked the guys out of the room. Whenever I'm at their house, something sexual is going on, upstairs, in the closets, in the stairs, once right next to me as I was on the computer chatting with some friends. We did have a rainbow party once but the girls also got kisses everywhere on their bodies as well. I have to say it was a blast because even the guys had to wear different colored lipsticks.
It was just for fun and we wanted to try it out.
Posted by China Doll  on  Mon Aug 15, 2005  at  12:49 PM
it may have started out as a myth but these parties do acctually take place. being 15 I've never taken part in one but i know people who have
Posted by kathryn  on  Tue Aug 16, 2005  at  03:14 AM
Yeah, talk, talk, talk ...
Everybody's talking about it, but still nobody's answered my original request:

"... just tell me where I can find one of these parties..."
Posted by Big Gary in Dallas  on  Tue Aug 16, 2005  at  11:55 AM
I hear than Jenna and Babs are having a party this weekend at their house, you know, the big white one on Pennsylvania Ave, and all their friends are coming... sorry...
Posted by Hairy Houdini  on  Tue Aug 16, 2005  at  12:28 PM
Look dont be stupid ya'll. Stop and think about it. If there were indeed such parties, given the nature of oral sex, wouldnt the first color pretty much be smeared off by the next girl? and so on? Rings of colored lipstick on his stick may be a male fantasy but no way its happening.
Besides that it would be nearly impossible to find enough lipstick to make a rainbow of colors. Mostly red and pink.
Posted by Chyca  on  Tue Aug 16, 2005  at  12:43 PM
Actually the first lips go to the base of the dick and than it goes up therefor its nto smearing the other lipsticks. And theres actually all different color lipsticks, purple,blue, yellow, green and so on. You can get them mostly anywhere they sell make up now.
Posted by China Doll  on  Tue Aug 16, 2005  at  04:31 PM
Partyboy, all we are asking for is some actaul physical evidence, not some "i seed it" report or a claim of someone's cousin's locker neighbour.

Several teens have videoed themselves committting acts of vandalsim and other stupidity: By now, if these parties were real, someone would have made a recording of some sort. That would constitute proof.

Is this a concept that is too hard for you to grasp?
Posted by DFStuckey  on  Wed Aug 17, 2005  at  01:02 AM
Chyca sez:
" ... wouldnt the first color pretty much be smeared off by the next girl?
If they're using regular lipstick, yes. On the other hand, if you draw a ring with a permanent marker, it's on there for at least a week or two. Try it.
And markers come in a wide selection of colors (you might even say a "rainbow" of colors.

Mind you, I still don't believe anybody's really doing this. At least, my invitation hasn't come in the mail yet.
Posted by Big Gary in Dallas  on  Wed Aug 17, 2005  at  04:41 PM
After awhile it gets hard to clean all those marker colours off you hand. I recommend Goop. It works wonders.
Posted by Charybdis  on  Wed Aug 17, 2005  at  05:01 PM
So if you saw a video of several girls sucking off several guys, you would believe?
Posted by partyboy  on  Wed Aug 17, 2005  at  08:16 PM
An orgy video isn't going to prove anything without the lipstick. There's about a million websites with "real" college girls getting gangbanged. Those girls are actually pros though. You did know that, didn't you partboy?
Posted by Thelonious Monkey  on  Wed Aug 17, 2005  at  09:58 PM
Thank you for that extra explanation for partyboy's education, Thelonius. 😊

I would confess that such a video would assist my belief, but it would also have to be backe dup by data that the people in question were who they said they were as well, that is not actors.

Just a quick question partyboy; why is it such an important part of your belief system that others must accept the existence of these parties? You remind me a lot of certain religious individuals who need to convince others of their faith to truly accept that faith themselves.
Posted by DFStuckey  on  Wed Aug 17, 2005  at  10:46 PM
Has anyone noticed taht even the participants in these "parties" seem unable to agree on what goes on there to justify the name? One crew says its lipstick, another says its Magic Markers.

Could be a regional difference, to be charoiitable. My feeling is that much like other reports of sexual activity, its utter BS.
Posted by DFStuckey  on  Wed Aug 17, 2005  at  10:51 PM
Wait a minute, there, Stuckey, I was the one who mentioned the Magic Markers, and I never said these parties are real. In fact, in the same post, I said, "I still don't believe anybody's really doing this."
Posted by Big Gary in Dallas  on  Thu Aug 18, 2005  at  04:41 PM
Hey, easy there Big Gary - No offense, I'm just saying that the story seems inconsistent around the place. Whoever told you about Magic Markers is obviously not the same circle that talks about lipstick, which is why I raised the point of inconsistent stories.

No offense meant 😊
Posted by DFStuckey  on  Thu Aug 18, 2005  at  05:33 PM
A few bars and clubs in Holland hand out coloured bracelets. The colours indicate whether you're single, up for a flirt, up for a one night stand, or gay. So it sounds more like a reality than a myth
Posted by Tychikus  on  Fri Aug 19, 2005  at  02:18 AM
Tychikus, that one doesn't translate. It's like saying that because you can buy marijuana brownies over the counter in Dutch cafes, then you can do so anywhere in the United States.

Although I was aware of the party scene in the Netherlands. Not that it would ever work for me, given that the women there still have the same human conditioning.
Posted by DFStuckey  on  Sat Aug 20, 2005  at  04:54 AM
These parties, though not common, do occur. The lipstick thing was just a happy side-effect of the party and they were thus dubbed raibow parties. I am a sexual health counselor and I have heard specific incidents from my clients who have participated in these parties...these parties are also a good way to spread sexually transmitted infections such a syphilis, gonorrhea and chlamydia. A recent outbreak here was linked to one of these parties.

PS - It's not only teens involved with these things. Remember that oral sex is sex and that it can spread disease, always use a condom or dental dam. For more information on STIs visit http://www.imjustmejustlikeyou.com or www.teenwire.com
Posted by travis  on  Thu Aug 25, 2005  at  02:40 PM
Hi. I'm Jesus Christ (the Son of God) and I'd just like to let everyone know that these parties are a complete fabrication. A rainbow party never has and never will occur on Earth so long as I reign in Heaven. I'm omniscient, so I should know. Also: everyone who has contradicted me in this thread shall be doomed to an eternity of suffering in the bowels of hell. Especially partyboy.

Have a nice day everybody!
Posted by Jesus Christ  on  Thu Aug 25, 2005  at  03:01 PM
OMG... XD Honestly, I really couldn't say this was fake... I think its pretty likely that there are groups of people doing something like this out there... XD

Just looks at the other kinds of sexual things people do in groups... Hell some of my best freinds are Furries... I've even been asked to go to a "Furr Pile" on a few occasions... (btw, a furrpile is basically an orgy, although furries swear its better XD)

Some people are just very open about sex, and it becomes a social activity to them and their friends...
Personally I think this behavior is wonderful... although... the only problem is STDs... which is kind of sad... cause without STDs there wouldn't be too much to fear. =/
I guess if your friends are close and honst, its a little better. XD
Posted by Kiko  on  Tue Aug 30, 2005  at  02:11 AM
Kiko, I have heard of Furry parties. Since they mostly consist of men dressed in costumes, some of which are of female animals, frotting themsleves into the linings, they are a phenomenon I can beleive in.

Travis, apart from the questionable activity of spamming, have you considered that it is unwise to promote an activity that will increase STDs? Several medical journals have published studies showing that the use of condoms increase the rate of gonnorhea alone by 25% ( Baltimore Medical Journal), and that condosm failure rate in protecting against chlamydia may be at least 50%. Here in NZ condoms are on the way out, being replaced by the Internet and sex toys.
Posted by DFStuckey  on  Tue Aug 30, 2005  at  02:21 AM
Condoms, when used correctly, are upt to 99% effective against many types of sexually transmitted infections...especially gonorrhea, syphilis, and chlamydia. Anyone that says otherwise is getting bad information.

Humans have been using condoms for centuries, and perfecting them for just as long. The latest generation of condoms, made from polyurethane, are hypoallergenic and have much smaller microscopic holes than latex. Lambskin condoms, which were the first used, have large microscopic holes that allow certain diseases (especially viruses) to pass through but are small enough to prevent pregnancy.

It is the people that continue to post erroneous information about condoms that continue to perpetuate the HIV epidemic and the transmission of diseases all across the world. Unless you're informed, educated and trained to talk to the public about these issues I advise not saying anything at all.
Posted by travis  on  Tue Aug 30, 2005  at  12:57 PM
travis, are you saying that only those with a vested interest in a subject should be allowed to talk about it? And what do you plan to do to me if I continue to speak up? 😊

Besides which, all the items I quoted were from medical research papers; Some of which have yet to be discredited.

No, seriously, travis, I am fully aware of the war going on here in this field ( I do have some training in life science BTW )- I just wanted to see if you could back up your argument in the face of some compelling sounding counter-arguments which you almost did.
Posted by DFStuckey  on  Fri Sep 02, 2005  at  11:21 PM
I would challenge you to provide enough information to allow other people to verify where you got your information. For example which edition, date, volume and page from the Baltimore Medical Journal did you get your info? Which studies, including authors, publish date and institution are you referring to? Are they scientific studies or statistical studies?

Rattling off the name of a medical journal does not make a good argument, it is usually just enough to make people think you're right without them wanting to verify your claims.
Posted by Travis  on  Tue Sep 06, 2005  at  03:06 PM
Hey Travis- watch out who you waste your time talking to. Ol' Stuckey gets off by eating crap off a cracker. Really.
Posted by booch  on  Tue Sep 06, 2005  at  04:57 PM
Thanks for the advice...

Posted by Travis  on  Wed Sep 07, 2005  at  09:02 AM
Travis, if you are still reading, I will give you a more reasonable explanation of previous comments.

For starters, the previous author who malinged me is making use of a phrase I use to illustarte precisely the point you make. Namely, that I could crap on a cracker and say it was peanut butter, but my saying so would not make it true. I think you would agree . . . Unless you would say that if the person saying that the crap was peanut butter was some "expert", in which case that is what it would be.

If you care to wait some time, I could supply you with the references you request. But, then again, would you accept them? There is an entire country who refuses to believe all the medical studies supporting the addition of folate to the diet as being useful in preventing spina bifida, including all of its medical authorities. Having said that, you seem to accept a claim from someone who hides behind a pseudonym that I am a coprophage without any corroborating evidence, so perhaps you don't take your own advice. Knowledge is no guarantee of wisdom.

And booch, if that is your real name, if you intend to defame me, at least understand what I'm saying before you deride it.
Posted by DFSTuckey  on  Thu Sep 08, 2005  at  04:53 AM
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